Wednesday, June 07, 2006

Criticism : Male vs Female - Episode 1

Happened to browse to a blog of a friend of mine discussing about the topic of guys before & after marriage. In that blog it says that during courtship, guys can do 101 things and after marriage things changed. On to my amazement, girls dropping comments sharing the same negative stigmas about guys.

On behalf of all guys, I put this posting up to counter attack the critism. Well, in this era where female always fighting for their rights, their status, their equalities to male, I am too shocked to know that most of the time that relationship turns sour, it is the male species to be blamed and female is seen as the victims. Why this still happened? I am not making a big fuss out of it because of a blog that I happened to browse thru but it is to change the mentality of the way we think and act sometimes. I cannot deny that some guys do cruel and brutal things towards their female counterparts but what about the minority of guys who care, who love with their full heart & soul? Why female is still look as a victim when there are also minority of cases, true cases in life where female dumped the guy for another man,etc.

I myself had gone thru a pretty of number of relationships, as far as I can recall, I had 3 failed relationships until I meet my soulmate, Emmery. I still can recall this one time, during a relationship, my ex-gf told me right when we broke off, she said "Michael, you can be a very good husband, but you fail to be a good boyfriend", a remark that took me sometime to unlock the meaning of it. It makes me wonder, what does a female looking at when they ignite a relationship? A responsible man? A career and financially sound man? or pretty faces for them to look good when they are out in the public? or just plain pampering, showers of gifts, etc.

Life is about YIN & YANG. Anything is perfect? We at this age, we got right to choose who we want to be with and who we do not. In the past, when marriage was pre-arranged and many cases you still can see those old times couple still celebrating the diamond jubilee and why divorce cases are more prone in this era? Who should we blame when a relationship fails?

I hope this posting does not hurt my female friends as this are my sincere words as I am hurt too when reading certain blog criticising guys... Phew, girls do not feel terribly upset when you are hurt or discriminate guys when you felt you are victimised. I am too, regardless of my gender, I got hurt too, and I got my downs too... HUMAN...

6 comments:

keeykeey said...

erm...
u were right about nothing is perfect, and when my colleague tell me about the story of fly, she smile so sweet, i dont think she is blaming her husband la... something good about her husband that we dont know...
hahaha...
it is nothing about male or female actually... wahah.. is just that sometimes we become careless after we couple for a long time... no matter male or female... is the same...

@lly said...

ya u r rite too...i agree with what keeykeey said..is not the matter of male or female...both in the relationship have the responsibility...bcoz i believe that nothing can be cause by one part only..

Michael Song said...

yeah... finally we got some really got some females who can speak logically... and these are females wif attitude... way to go!!!

kennethnorman said...

"Michael, you can be a very good husband, but you fail to be a good boyfriend" -----> means Gold Digger/ listen to Mr Kanye West song

keeykeey said...

i think u are a good bf too...

Michael Song said...

keey2, geez... thanks for complimenting...